It’s a beautiful moment when you see a sweet little girl blossom into a beautiful young woman. This afternoon, I attended the bridal shower of my best friend’s daughter and realized that time passes much too quickly as we grow older. Each day should be treasured for what it is.
Twenty something years ago, I visited with my friend and her little girls at their new home. Here we were, two best friends, reminiscing about our “younger days” and all the fun we had as single women and now, we were wives with families. Did those labels define us? Our previous conversations were filled with discussions of what we were wearing when we ventured into New York City on a Saturday evening, and now we were talking about our favorite dinner recipes or how to take care of a child’s fever.
We used to be called “hot women” and now we were being labeled “wives” or “mothers.” What happened? Did we suddenly become “cold” now that we merged with a life partner? Were we no longer attractive to the opposite sex just because we had a ring on our finger or pushed a stroller?
What happened is that we no longer defined ourselves as anything besides being part of someone else’s life; whether a spouse or a child. It was our fault. We soon learned that deep down inside it was perfectly fine to still think of ourselves as hot young women AND married women. Our dreams, spirits and ambitions were the same back then and haven’t changed to this day. The only difference now is that all the love we shared, tears we cried and challenges we conquered over the years now appear on our faces like stars in a summer sky.
My friend’s daughter has grown into an intelligent, lovely, caring young woman. Her fiancé is kind-hearted, friendly, loving young man. They complement each other, not define each other. Each is perfectly able to stand on their own yet together they create a bond that is solid and genuine. As individuals and as a couple, I wish them all the treasures one lifetime can hold and the strength to endure any adversities that may cross their paths. “
“I think a man and a woman should choose each other for life, for the simple reason that a long life with all its accidents is barely enough time for a man and a woman to understand each other and. . . to understand – is to love.” ~ William Butler Yeats
“The spaces between your fingers were created so that another’s could fill them in.” ~ Anonymous ~